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Meet Women
Guys question me about " understanding women " and "how to understand women " and similar topics all the time .
But frankly the best answer for all of these sort of questions is "experience."
But surely the next question is how do you get experience if you don't know how to attract women?
You meet women, approach women, and observe women any way you can for as long as it takes to get comfortable with the topic. Then when you are comfortable you date women, date women, date women. It is called serial dating.
And when I authored my first book, "How I Got 700 Dates In One Year", some people thought I was nuts.
I guess I should elucidate. I am not a cheater and don't believe in cheating. That is not what serial dating is about. Serial dating is about the times you are NOT in a relationship. It is about what you do in between relationships. It is about sensibly selecting a mate.
Now I would be the first one to admit that a person who "multiple"¯ or "serial"¯ dates with no intention of ever doing anything else would have at least some major "relating"¯ issues.
However, serial and multiple dating is not only not necessarily a bad thing, if done with a purpose to learn about the opposite sex, it is a good thing. By heavy and consistent interaction with the opposite sex we can learn about both the opposite sex and about ourselves.
Do you remember what good old mom and dad use to say to you when you were a teenager?
They said: "Don't get really serious with one person, you need to date and meet a lot of girls/guys."¯
It may seem immature, but this teenage advice is what most adults who are looking for a mate need to remember.
First of all, most adults never followed their parent's suggestion and dated lots of people. Most people seem to have a pattern of connecting with the first acceptable¯ person who shows them some real interest.
Unfortunately, there is a difference between "acceptable¯" and "ideal"¯ and also sad to say most people normally continue this habit of connecting with the first "acceptable"¯ person who comes along well into maturity.
We call this "compromising"¯ or "settling"¯ and ultimately it leads to depression in relationships, and a failure to fully grasp the opposite sex.
Most of us didn't realize when we were teenagers that there are all sorts of people in the world - different personalities, different likes and dislikes. We didn't realize that if we met enough people we actually could meet someone who was precisely right for us.
Most of us didn't even examine our own temperament and what what would be a good match for us. We founded our ideas of what a good match was off of television and movies and magazines. You see most of us just lacked experience with the opposite sex.
But the cure for all of this is not very complex. You see, when you meet and date a lot of different people a natural learning process emerges. It is called experience. No matter how dumb you are, you figure it out sooner or later. Some people sooner. Some people later. You can learn about anything this way, and there is no better teacher.
And believe it or not, that is all us "dating gurus" have ever done to meet women and attract women . We have just gone out there and got a lot of experience.
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